Most of us have witnessed the dissolution of marital happiness in real-time, in a world where Divorce Court is a genuine TV show.
One thing, though, unites all divorces—whether you’re watching Brangelina’s breakup or your best friend’s—is that there’s no predetermined way to end a relationship. Divorce coach Karen Finn, PhD, says there is no right or wrong way to get a divorce. It’s a process full of unknowns.
Waiting too long or getting married too soon is something you want to avoid.
Marrying between the ages of 28 and 32 is associated with the lowest divorce rate, per Institute of Family Studies data. According to the authors, getting married too young can trigger a divorce since you lack the maturity and coping mechanisms needed to make the marriage last. Waiting too long, however, allows troublesome previous relationships and ingrained lifestyle choices to obstruct a happy marriage.
Divorce is more frequently started by women.
Women start 69% of all marriage dissolutions. Strangely, Stanford University research shows that men and women start breakups at the same rate before getting married.
Porn might drive the two of you apart.
According to a random study from the University of Oklahoma, the probability of divorce increased for those who began watching porn after getting married. For women, worse, dirtier flicks had a greater impact. If they began watching X-rated content after being married, their chance of divorcing increased thrice (from 6 to 18%). The association between divorcing and forming a new pornographic habit while married does not establish causation, as is the case with most study findings. Per experts, porn might even strengthen your relationship in bed. A pinch of salt, folks.
A rough marriage could be caused by a large boulder.
In contrast to couples who overspend, those who save money on their wedding and engagement rings typically have longer-lasting marriages, per a poll conducted by professors at Emory University.
Spending more than $2,000 to $4,000 on an engagement ring raises your risk of divorce by a ratio of 1.3 in comparison to spending between $500 and $2,000. In contrast, the divorce rate for women who spent over $20,000 on their weddings was 1.6 times greater than that of those who spent between $5,000 and $10,000. Couples that spent less than $1,000 on their wedding experienced a lower divorce rate than the average. You get the idea.
The length of time you stay married may depend on where you reside.
To determine which states in the US have the highest divorce rates, researchers gathered data from US organizations such as the Bureau of Labor Statistics for a study conducted by the personal finance company WalletHub. They were Nevada, Washington, DC, Florida, Louisiana, and Mississippi, in that order. In the meantime, Utah, North Dakota, Minnesota, New Jersey, and Hawaii were home to the married couples who had lasted the longest.
You keep hearing this crazy 50% divorce statistic but forget it.
According to data from the American Community poll conducted in 2014, the typical working woman has a 2% chance of getting divorced before turning thirty and a 19% likelihood of getting divorced overall her spouse by the age of 50. Not too horrible, huh?
There’s a premarital sex sweet spot.
According to a University of Utah study, women who had three to nine sexual partners had a lower divorce rate than those who had just two partners, even though women with ten or more lovers were the most likely to get divorced. However, don’t allow a magic number to prevent you from being who you are.
Squabbling with your significant other over expenses is a dangerous place to go.
Researchers from Kansas State University have found that independent of income level, financial disputes are one of the most important predictors of divorce. Money battles, money splits, más’.
March and August are the two most common months in which to file for divorce.
Sociologists from the University of Washington found that most people put off filing for divorce during the holidays because it kind of kills the mood, and by the time they gather their resources again, spring has arrived. Their analysis covered divorce files in the state of Washington from 2001 to 2015. However, summer divorces are typically an attempt to have that conversation before the children return to school.
Boozing heavily ups your risk for divorce.
That’s particularly true, a research published in the journal Alcoholism: Clinical & Experimental Research, if you’re drinking more than your hubs. When a woman drinks excessively and her husband doesn’t drink at all, the likelihood of divorce triples. Alcohol compatibility is important.
